With day by day exposure to new & weird individuals, life is becoming a wondering puzzle for me. With no exception everyday I am experiencing extremely frustrated people moving around me who believe that they are not capable enough to bravely face harsh realities of life. Unmet expectations about themselves, insecurity and uncertainty about successful “perceived easy” life, or sudden exposure to challenges (which are completely new to such dependent fellows who have become habitual to parental source of everything) all of which would definitely be the reason behind such extreme pessimism. Under this scenario one can found it extremely difficult to cope up with sudden & growing epidemic of pessimism which is extremely harmful for inner peace of mind & enthusiasm in daily life. A novice like mine in this journey of life can’t say anything more than this :
Lack of enthusiasm is first & the worst of all steps leading towards Depression…
Depression is contagious; unenthusiastic people spread it….
Hence, Beware of unenthusiastic & unhappy souls.
In this situation, I am happy to have very few but truly amazing optimistic, cheerful, enthusiastic travellers who are always there with me to accompany and to please me all the time. I am happy to have them whenever I need them & whenever I just want to be with them. To be and remain happy; healthy & wealthy a combination of serenity of mind & enthusiasm in life seems to be a panacea for everything.
For days and nights, if we follow our dreams then there is no chance of getting infected with negative emotions. I have seen most intelligent, financially stable people being demolished by consequences of not doing those things which not at all make them happy. This is nothing but result of doing something very hard to fulfill somebody else dream. Through “job system” (I will say it’s nothing but modern form of intellectual slavery) most of us are programmed to such an extent that, we even can’t recall what were our dreams and like a paid slave we do keep our self engaged in ‘work n wage cycle’.
Rather being proud of, the phrase ‘I am employee’ of XYZ firm, must be taken as slang. We are trained in academic institutions to be complacent with ‘salaried employment’. People love their job as it pays off. But they can not understand hidden reality behind it. Job is nothing but a form of “paid slavery”. We spend our precious time, efforts even dreams to fulfil somebody else desires. Simply it has been described by Dhirubhai Ambani as “If you don’t build your dream, someone else will hire you to help them build theirs“.
Never discuss these four things with your new (<1yr old company) friends/immediate coworkers/batch mates…
1) Personal achievements/salary increment/any appreciation you got at same workplace/institute.
2) Your weakness & current failures…
3) Personal matters, particularly love affairs/issues in married life (no criticism no appreciation about spouse, simply avoid it).
4) Weakness and strengths of your spouse / parents / family members.
Only your old friends and mentors who have been there with you for more than one year are trustworthy. Besides, make sure that those friends show equal emotional bonding as you have for them.
How to test true emotional bonding? To know more, please check my upcoming blog – Mitr Pariksha by modern Chanakya.